Why you should never settle for less than what you want
Happy New Year everyone!
This is the first guest post of the year and it’s by Farouk Radwan, founder of 2knowmyself.com. Farouk demonstrates why you should never settle for anything less than what you want and highlights a very important ingredient in the entrepreneurial mindset.
Depression results from chemical imbalance in the brain. This fact is known to almost everybody, but ask any person what causes this imbalance and you will find that he doesn’t know the answer.
Depression happens when a person loses hope in getting something that he wanted to get badly. This means that your unmet goals can result In depression the day you decide that you won’t pursue them anymore.
If you always wanted to become rich and if you were still trying then you are less likely to get depressed. If on the other hand you decided one day that you would stop trying then you will certainly get depressed.
This will happen because you prevented yourself from fulfilling one of your important unmet needs (provided that getting rich is really important to you).
The acceptance trap
Acceptance is an amazing thing. Sometimes the only way to get over emotional pain is to except what happened to you. For example if you lost a close person then you will never heal unless you accept that the loss happened and that it can’t be reversed.
Now many people get acceptance wrong and decide to settle for things that they didn’t want just because they failed to get the things that they wanted to get!
If the man in the previous example —who wanted to get rich— decided to accept the fact that he is poor by deciding not to do anything about it, then his subconscious mind will let him feel really bad because it will easily spot this kind of self deception he used.
There is a great difference between accepting things that can never be changed and declaring defeat by believing that you are stuck where you are.
If you want something badly then you must fight for it.
Your subconscious mind knows best. If you want something badly then rest assured that unless you get that thing you won’t experience real happiness.
If your beliefs changed in such a way that this important thing became less important to you then it’s ok not to try to get it, but if your belief system remained intact and if you only tried to deceive yourself by claiming that what you wanted was never that important then certainly you will end up depressed.
Happy people are the ones who fight for the things they believe in and the happiest ones on earth are the ones who achieve what they have been fighting for.
Settle for less than what you wanted in life and you are destined to feel dissatisfied with your life.
Farouk brings up an important thing: fighting for what you want. To often people give up just when the fight begins.
So I ask you:
What is it you want in life and are you willing to fight for it? I mean reaaaallly fight for it. I’m talking about doing whatever it takes to get things done.
About the guest
Farouk Radwan is the founder and the author of all articles found on the site 2knowmyself.com. 2knowmyself has hundreds of personal development, self help and psychology articles written with one purpose which is to make the reader live a happier life. Farouk is a full time blogger who makes his living online through his blogs.